Thomas J. Nolan III, Ph.D.

Norman, Oklahoma









What is your Life’s Purpose?

  • What are your dreams; your life’s path?
  • What do you love to do; your passion?
  • What are your unique gifts; your talents?

In order to accomplish your Life Purpose, have you:

  • Identified your life’s goals, path or career aspirations?
  • Identified experiences and understandings needed to accomplish your life’s goals?
  • Identified and broken patterns that are not in your best interest?
  • Identified techniques available to you to help you overcome the barriers and obstacles to your success?
  • Found and maintained that special relationship?
  • Obtained peace of mind that you can maintain under most conditions?
  • Created a wealthy state of mind that will attract wealth to you?
  • Created a spiritual foundation and practice?

A Life Coach can assist you by helping you to:

  • Challenge conventional wisdom through a questioning process that stimulates thought.
  • Use the self-discovery approach to finding answers.
  • Discover alternatives path and understand the viability of each path, thus presenting better choices.
  • Discover the power of connection rather than attachments.
  • Operate from your heart instead of your head.
  • Determine when you are caught up in yours or someone else’s drama.
  • Not take things personally, and validate the assumptions you make
  • Become more focused, as well as, maintain that focus.
  • Take responsibility for your life and how you operate within it.

How does a Life Coach operate?

Everyone has problems.  Sometimes, however, a client needs help because he or she is blocked, overwhelmed, or just can’t see the forest for the trees (or vice versa).  The Life Coach develops a one-on-one relationship that empowers, identifies patterns of sabotage, and challenges the client.  As a result, the client develops skills, knowledge, and abilities to resolve his or her own problems; thereby, creating a life that is self-sufficient, not co-dependent.

The Life Coach seeks to facilitate the development of the whole person.  That is, the Life Coach helps the client by addressing various life issues and problems from a whole person perspective.  The whole person can be described as a multidimensional being that can be viewed in terms of seven states.  These seven states cannot taken in isolation into individual states but must be seen as an integrated whole; where, the whole cannot only be seen as the sum of the individual states but how these states interrelate to each other, as well.

Most life problems, therefore, cannot be taken in isolation; a given problem usually involves two or more of the seven states.  In order to find resolutions to these problems, then, each situation must be seen in terms of the relationship between the affected states.  A model that describes the relationship between these states is as follows:


A Model of Multidimensional States of Being






                                                                                    Mental                                    Emotional






      Relationship                            Career/Work






Seven States of Being


The physical dimension encourages cardiovascular flexibility and strength and also, encourages regular, physical activity.  Physical development encourages knowledge about food and nutrition and discourages the use of habitual substances, such as, tobacco, drugs and excessive alcohol consumption.  It encourages consumption and activities, which contribute to high level wellness, including individual responsibility and appropriate use of tradition and alternative medical approaches.


The career-work dimension is involved in preparing for work in which one will gain personal satisfaction, fulfillment, and enrichment in one's life through work. Ideally, it is best when you find career-work that you enjoy, are connected to, and find fulfillment.  If you can not find work that you enjoy and are connected to, then find something outside of that “job” that you can do that does fulfillment your needs. 


The relationship dimension encourages the development of wholesome connection with, as well as, the common welfare of one's community; emphasizing interdependence with others.  It includes the pursuit of harmony within one's relationships.


The intellectual dimension encourages creative, stimulating mental activities.  An intellectually well person uses the resources available to expand one's knowledge in improved skills along with expanding potential for sharing with others.  An intellectually well person understands the value of learning beyond the classroom, combining all resources available within the community of life.


The emotional intelligence dimension has been described in terms of an emotional quotient or emotional literacy.  Emotional intelligence demonstrates an ability to relate to others with compassion and empathy.  Individuals with a high emotional intelligence exhibit well-developed social skills and are able to use the knowledge to direct personal actions and behavior.  It includes the capacity to manage one's feelings and related behaviors including the realistic assessment of one's limitations, development of autonomy, and ability to cope effectively with stress.  The emotionally well person maintains satisfying relationships with others.

Emotional intelligence is “The ability to sense, understand and effectively apply the power and acumen of emotions as a source of human energy, information, connection and influence.”


The spiritual dimension involves seeking meaning and purpose in human existence. It includes the development of an appreciation for the depth and expanse of life and natural forces that exist in the universe.  It asks the question “Who am I?”  And, “What is my relationship with the universe.”  It further poses the question, “How can I find and maintain peace in the mist of chaos.


The environmental dimension involves an understanding of an individual’s relationship (i.e., perception of, or understanding of) with his or her surroundings.  Do you see yourself as a custodian of your environment?  Or, do you see yourself as an integral part of or participant within that environment.

The environment can also be expressed in terms of one’s community, (i.e., the culture, or society he or she resides).  Thus, beliefs, values, and mores are a function his or her connection with their community.  How these beliefs, values, and mores are shared affects whether or not one sees himself or herself as an integral part of that community, an outcast, or somewhere in between.


When you are ready to make changes in your life and would like assistance from Dr. Nolan, you may contact him at:


Thomas J. Nolan III, PhD

4235 Brookview

Norman, Oklahoma 73072

(405) 360-1700